Jennie and I have been on the heavy summer wedding circuit as of late and we’ve been lucky enough to have seen a bunch of great toasts at the past couple of parties. Unfortunately, this is not always the case…
I got thinking about the common elements that make up a good toast on the plane ride home this morning and, in an effort to relieve a little stress for the people who get nervous about getting up in front of a group (at weddings or otherwise), I thought I would float a quick template that covers enough of the bases to have even the most shy person looking good.
1: Get your “speaking legs” under you by briefly introducing yourself and thanking the hosts of the event.
Hi everyone, my name is _____. I’m a friend of _____’s from _____ and I’ve had the distinct pleasure of getting to know _____, over the past _____ years.
Let me begin by thanking the _____’s and the _____’s for hosting such a wonderful event. This has been an amazing weekend so far and I know that everyone here appreciates your generosity and wishes we could be a part of something as great as this more often.
2: Share a humorous, yet innocuous & tasteful, anecdote that ultimately paints the couple in a positive light.
Before I offer a toast to the couple, I’d like to share a quick story about… {insert your best 45 second story here}
3: Say something heartfelt about the couple and, most importantly, raise your glass and offer an actual toast.
But seriously, all kidding aside, I want to thank you both for including me in your special day and I’d like to invite everyone here to raise their glass and join me in congratulating _____ and _____ on their beautiful wedding and wishing them _____ for many years to come.
To _____ and _____, cheers!
Additionally:
1: BE BRIEF: Seriously, 1 or 2 minutes max. Avoid the temptation to do the ever-so-common chronological recap of year-by-year inside jokes that nervous, unfunny people seem to always default back to.
2: STAY WITHIN YOUR LIMITS: Don’t try to hit a comedy home run unless you can really pull it off. If you just can’t resist, try out your stand-up material the night before at the rehearsal dinner.
3: BE RESPECTFUL & MAKE IT ABOUT THE COUPLE: It’s their day, not yours, so don’t say anything to embarrass them beyond the “very-mildly blushing” stage. Trust me, their grandparents don’t “get” your sense of humor and the bride’s dad definitely doesn’t want to hear about that “one night in Mexico.”
4: PREPARE & PRACTICE IN ADVANCE: Write your toast down and say it out loud to yourself at least a day or two before the wedding. I guarantee that the people who give great toasts and look like they are “winging it” have practiced a lot more than they will ever let on.
5: HAVE THAT TEQUILA SHOT AFTER YOU’RE DONE. Nice job, you’ve earned it…
http://www.adambrucker.com/give-a-great-wedding-toast-in-3-easy-steps/