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Many of you know that my sister Alexandra passed away in 2006. This page is a work in progress dedicated to her memory. Please send me anything else you would like to add and I will post it here. Thanks, -Adam

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ALEX’S ACCOMPLISHMENTS:

Alex:

• Ran in and finished the Honolulu Marathon
• Rode her bike from SF to LA as part of the Aids/Lifecycle fundraiser.
• Managed a rock-band in San Francisco.
• Decided to attend not one but three colleges, including a few years in Colorado and almost a full year in Hawaii!
• Spent two months having an adventure in Thailand, mostly by herself.
• Adopted more than her fair share of pets. And always picked the ones that needed her the most.

-Adam Brucker

• Taught herself to paint and painted prolifically and beautifully the last few months
• Volunteered with many organizations, including the American Camp Association and Bay Area Wilderness Training
• Lit up a room with her smile
• Was a gifted teacher - kids adored her
• Dreamed big dreams, and made most of them come true
• Was always ready for adventure

-Stephanie Levin

• Was a truly caring and genuine friend
• Lived life with freedom and conviction

-Eric Bell

• Had a magnificent smile
• Always always spoke the perfect words
• Loved a challenge and never hesitated to face her fears
• Loved everyone

-Anna Milburn

• Her smile lit up a room, her laughter opened doors.
• Always had time to sit and listen to a friend, especially the ones under the age of 16.
• Alex never hesitated to live life to the fullest and experience everything her heart desired.

-Janet Nash

• Was completely selfless in all she did.
• Gave all of herself in all that she did and never turned down the opportunity to help a friend.
• Was always there with a smile on her face.
• Truly loved her friends and had many of them.

-Heather Tomlinson

• Was an unbelievable friend.

-Nicky Lewenson Shargel

• made her little brother, Andy, very happy
• put a twinkle in her father’s eye
• made people laugh-hard!
• always looking for her next “adventurous journey”
• Bob, Andrew, and I hold a pride and love for Alex that will never die.

-Denise Brucker

Some good/funny highlights and accomplishments, which is how I will always remember Alex:

• making friends with anybody, anywhere
• was the best listener and gave the best advice
• accepted all and appreciated the individualistic qualities in each person
• not only trained and completed a marathon, but brought our running group together and formed ever-lasting friendships. In fact, she brought many groups of friends together.
• could keep up with me at happy hour (that’s a major accomplishment!)
• had a great knack for style and was very creative (we took a pottery class together and her work was far better than mine!)
• one time, we played Bingo! in the Castro and she won $100 that night (which she proceeded to donate half of it to a great cause). But that’s not all she’s won
• she won my heart. I miss you, Alex – I love you and will keep the spirit we had together alive.

-Art Aguilar

• Alex was an wonderful person.
• Had a sense of humor and smile unlike no other,
• Created the most awesome senior page for me.
• Was an incredible friend.
• A ray of sunshine.

-Amy Ann Benton

• Made every one happy
• Pleases every one
• A loving and caring sister
• Helps as many people she can

-Andrew Brucker

GUESTBOOK ENTRIES:

I am so sad writing this, but like many cannot get Alex’s smile out of my head. Whenever I think of her I just picture her smiling and laughing…or making others smile and laugh. She was my first friend at Walker’s and we connected for obvious reasons- our name and that we were both day students- but also because she was so warm and accepting and took me under her wing when I was new. I will never forget that. I will also never forget the time she got my car stuck in a ditch at Loomis Chaffee. I have never laughed so hard. She was just so much fun to be around. The world has lost a very special person. A dreamer and a doer. Reading these postings made me remember how many lives she touched. My deepest sympathies to her family in CT and friends in CA. I am sure it is still very hard. I’m so sorry.

-Alexandra Mayville

Dear Alex,

I am writing this posting directly to you because I believe that just because a person is no longer with us they are still watching over all of us thru there spirit. I know that you have finally found the peace that you searched for in life. I am missing you with each day and will forever. I thank you for all the little things in life that you taught me that I would never have thought of had it not been for you. I thank you for the many, many laughs that you gave my children and the friendship I will forever carry in my heart, with you ! I love you and miss you, my dear friend !!!!

Love Always, -Shelly-Shell

It is hard to believe that it has been a year since I heard the sad news. Since then I have thought about Alex a lot. Although I had not seen her in years I remember her fun, upbeat personality as if it was just yesterday. I recently brought out the pictures of my 15th birthday party with Alex my freshman year at Walker’s. She had been friends with my older sister Nan and that friendship was passed down when I came to EWS. I remember thinking how cool it was to have a Junior at my birthday party! I can’t help smiling thinking about all the fun times we had in just the few short years I knew her. My 10th reunion is coming up next month and it makes me think of all the wonderful memories.

I feel lucky to have known such a kind and great woman - a friend to so many people - and I miss her deeply.

My thoughts go out to her family.

-Kate Flanagan Shoss

I am shocked and deeply saddend at the news of Alex’s passing. Alex was truely an inspiration of how life should be lived. She saw a dream, or had a goal and went for it. She loved life, and all the people that she touched loved her. We will all miss her infectious laughter and spontanious spirit.

-Pamela Kronick-Axler

Alex,
I can’t believe my eyes and what they are reading…I’m in shock! I think about you all the time…wondering what are you up to now?! How do I get a hold of that girl to say hello.

Alex and I participated in BAWT’s WLT a few years back. We had an instant connection and a formed a bond the quickest out of anyone in the group. I was extremely nervous going on this back packing trip for 5 days with strangers, but Alex…she was something different, we said hi, we laughed and then we were inseparable for the next five days! We talked here and there when we got back from the trip, always picking up were we left off, never seemed like we were missing out on any time lost. She always inspired met o keeping doing for people, every time I talked to her or got an e-mail saying donate please!

Although it has been some time since her passing, I am just finding out of her news and I can’t believe it! I’ll miss you Alex, my heart is broken knowing your time has ended with us. May you be the beautiful angel in heaven that you were here on earth. God Bless you and your family!

Love Always, -Leticia (tish) Antonio

Adam,
Since hearing the news our thoughts have been with you. This is a touching tribute to Alex, and the outpouring of thoughts and memories by her friends are a testament to the legacy she leaves behind. Please let us know if there is anything we can do, and we’ll talk soon.

-Phil and Katie

We were so shocked and saddened to hear of Alex’s death. We are so very sorry for your loss. Alex was such an incredible person.

My daughter Emma attended the SFJCC camp when Alex was director. Emma started with a bunch of friends from her preschool right before their kindergarten year. Alex immediately put all of the nervous parents and children right at ease. She had such a zest for life, an infectious spirit, and an enthusiasm for each person, adult or child, Alex got to know each camper individually — not just their names, but what they liked and didn’t like. I don’t think I ever saw Alex without a couple of campers draped around her. My daughter cried to leave her at the end of the summer and looked forward all year to seeing her the next one.

You raised a wonderful young woman. We are so very sorry for your loss.

-Amy, Rob and Emma Ackerman-Wexler

To Alex’s family and friends,

My deepest condolences - I’m so sorry for your loss and may God be with you during your time of grief. You are all in my prayers at this time.

I found out about Alex this morning in an email and I have had trouble keeping it together ever since.

Brucker and I were roomates at the first college – Gettysburg, second roommates I should say…she was kind enough to volunteer to move into my room when I didn’t get along with my first. We immediately became the best of friends. We had a lot of fun, shared a REALLY messy room, and got through some tough times together, with lots of tears and laughter…

I just took out my photo album of freshman year before writing this and opened it up to a smiling picture of me and Bruck with a quote written below, “Treat your friends as you do your pictures, and place them in their best light.” As someone said earlier in the guest book, “Remember her golden light.” I know I can feel her light with me already. Right now she’s trying to get me to crack a smile rather than shed these tears

I feel so lucky to have been a part of her life. I don’t know what I would have done without her over the years. I’m really going to miss her smiling face and laughter over the phone. I hoped that we would run a marathon together on the same coast one day. Now I just know that she will be my source of strength in those last few miles every time. She was an amazing person and I am so proud of her for everything she was able to accomplish in life. She is truly an inspiration for all those who love her to achieve their dreams.

I remember our last morning at G-Burg, Bruck left earlier than me and I was still sleeping. She left this note, which I found on the last page of my photo album with her handwriting in faded pink, “Bye. I miss you already Take good care. Love, AEB” Right back at you Bruck…

Love you. –Mere

My cousin Craig Hermes told me about Alex, whose AIDS ride I donated to last year, without ever meeting her. There was something about her webpage on her upcoming ride that grabbed me and inspired me to donate. Reading all about her here, my heart goes out to all who loved her, a most extraordinary and above all, loving woman…thank you for making her spirit come alive here, touching even one who never met her…

-Zan Tewksbury

I am so saddened to hear about Alex! I remember Alex as someone eveyone loved. When I think about her, the main distinquishing trait I remember is her smile. She knew how to make light of every moment and make everyone laugh. She had an enormous heart that will always shine. My heart goes out to her family and loved ones!

Love Always, -Meghan Simko

All of us who knew her at Walker’s are struggling to accept this senseless loss. This web site, while deeply sad, is somehow comforting. The outpouring is a clear demonstration of the impact Alex had on so many different people That warm beautiful smile of hers and that infectious laugh that made us all feel good have obviously not died.

I remember many things about Alex but one that is making me smile right now is the famous and magnificent “senior slide” she started a couple of days after finding out she had been accepted to college. Nothing her advisor Mr. Coster did or said could stop her descent; Alex was going to relax and have a good time.

To her family and close friends, I am terribly sorry for your loss. She was warm and generous, and she was fun.

-Carol Clark-Flanagan

Alex was a fantastic person and it was a pleasure to spend time with her at rock eagle. I remember all the silly games we used to play. I have a photo of Alex and me winning a bet with the other campers, her face bright with the infectious smile that made her so special.

She will be missed here in England too

-Ross Falloon

For the last two weeks my thoughts have been filled with many many memories of Alex and all the wonderful moments we shared together. I can still hear her laugh and still see her smile and I am so happy to have such wonderful memories to carry me forward.
Alex was a one-of-a-kind friend. She was the kind of friend that just made everything better, simply by being around. Alex had the endearing quality of finding humor in many situations, and of course the ability to laugh at herself. She was always up to try anything and could always be counted on to keep you company no matter what you might be doing.
One of the things I admired most about Alex is that she was the rare kind of person who actually dared to follow her dreams. I remember senior year of high school how she talked about how she had never been to summer camp and how she would love to go - I reminded her she was 18 years old, and thought it was just a passing thought, but Alex went to summer camp that very summer! And, wow, she really lived that dream in the years that followed and thrived at camp in Maine and in San Fran too. Even today, another one of her camp dreams has been accomplished, a scholorship in her name, she would be so happy.

Alex made her dreams come true - she really went to school in Hawaii, she really ran a marathon, and she really went to Thailand - her list of accomplishments goes on and on. I will miss hearing her latest “wild” idea and watching as she followed it through. I will miss her email updates allowing us all to share in her experiences. I will miss Alex.. She was a great friend and I will miss her always.

May the memories we all share of our friend, daughter, sister, keep her close to our hearts always. May we all be like Alex and always follow our dreams.

Love you “bruck” -Jennifer Donnellan Friedlander

Alex was joy in a bottle. Bursting with boundless energy and brimming over with good humor, she filled our lives with endless rascally smiles and playful high jinks. In so brief a time she made so great a difference to so many. Her spirit shines like the sea.

Deepest sympathy -Priscilla Jackson

Beth and family,
Although we only met Alex briefly and did not know her well, Beth has been an important part of our family for 20 years. Thank you for this site and allowing us to know Alex better. I can’t imagine your pain in loss but I know how much you loved your daughter and how much a part of your life your children are and always will be. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love, -Lynn, Tom, Emily and Adam Svindland

To the Brucker family…

Words simply cannot express how shocked and saddened I am by the news of Alex. My mother called me on my way home from work to break the news and I’m still in shock.

I hadn’t seen Alex since my younger sister, Kate, graduated from EWS in ‘97, but I have so many fond memories of her. I was two years older than Alex, and Kate was younger. We both benefited from knowing her, and there is a small amount of comfort knowing that Kate and I can share memories of her.

Hanging out in the day student lounge wtih Alex, visiting her over the summer, trying to sell EWAC candy to other EWS students (most of which we’d end up eating ourselves)…whatever the memory, laughter was always involved.

She was a wonderful friend and such a giving person. I have so many photos of her from high school…I will send some to add to the gallery.

Words can’t offer any comfort to you at a time like this, but please know my thoughts are with you.

-Nan Flanagan

I am shocked and saddened to hear of the loss of Alex. I knew her for a short time at The Ethel Walker School. I will always remember her laugh and smile. This website is such a lovely way to acknowledge how special she was to all of us. My condolences to her family.

-Claire Applegate Maxwell

I am sitting in a stuffy office back in Britain reading through all the wonderful things Alex has done. The sun is shining and I feel totally inspired to get out there and make the most of every single day, just as Alex did.

I was one of 3 Brits spending a year at Rock Eagle in Georgia. Alex was the very first person I met when I arrived feeling totally overwhelmed and homesick. She immediately welcomed us with a huge smile and put us all at ease.

I have so many fond memories of Alex from my time in the States. However inparticular I remember Alex introducing us to many of the American customs…This included a keg stand where she held our legs in the air whilst getting us to do a handstand on a barrel of beer in order to drink it!

I so sorry for your loss and just wanted you all to know that Alex’s impact extends across more than one country.

-Hayley Garrett

Dear Brucker Family:

I am greatly saddened by the loss of Alex — it is senseless. Alex’s spirit will forever live on in her family and friends, both old and new. My thoughts are with you.

-Alexis Davison

Please accept my most sincere condolences on the loss of Alex. She brightened up my every day at Walker’s. I will always remember her infectious smile.

Sincerely, -Sara Berg

In Alex’s memeory:

It seems that the world often takes from us what we dare not dream we could ever lose. Yet, it is that unrelenting tide of tragedy that forces us to reach into our memories and truly see what it is we no longer have. Reading through this list of sympathetic, heartbreaking, and aching thoughts has made me realize how truly extrodinary Alex was and still is.

Alex and I laughed, fought, and bumbled through the akwardness of our teenage years at both Sage Park Junior High School and at Walker’s. Sometimes we were friends, sometimes discomboulated allies, and sometimes distenced aquaintences.

Alex is, in so many ways, a symbol of my youth. A symbol of all the wonder, anger, beauty and rage that made up those years.

I write this now with tears that creep down my cheeks despite my stubborn sense that Alex would not want her memory to be so solemn. I therefore pledge to myself, to Alex’s family, and to all those who loved and cared about Alex to remember her golden light, infectious laugh, and strong swagger with the joy that comes from having spent some special and simple time with a truly incredible human being. Alex will always be a part of my history and of the mystery of loss, love, and life.

-Stacey

Dear Beth and family. I am so sorry that you all have to deal with such a loss. It is still unbelievable to me. The website is such a wonderful way to share comments and photos of Alex, whom I did not know. Still, I grieve for you and her brother and her Dad. Know that many care for you and love you and that the sun will still come out anyway. You’ll be able to see it one day and remember how Alex must have loved the west, where the air is clear and closer to the sun. We especially appreciated the photo of the moose; all the time we lived in northern/central NH we only saw 1.

Sincerely, -Jan and Michael Malcolm

Alex had a heart of gold. I bonded with her immediately upon my arrival at EWS in 1992. She was my Morning meeting buddy… she always made my morning brighter. I am so saddened by this great loss.
I will never forget my lacrosse days with her. I really join those who feel emptiness because we have lost an exceptional soul.

My sympathy and love to her family. I have so many wonderful memories with Alex.
I am so proud that she accomplished so many things and leaves a big mark upon those who knew her. I like to believe she will always be with us. She will watch over her Family and friends.
My love to all who feel this great loss.

-Sara M. Bouillon

To the Brucker Family:

Hi- my name is Amy Ann Benton’95, and I had the privelege of knowing Alexandra at EWS. The few years that I was a student at Ethel Walker were so much more special because of Alex. Alex always had a smile on her face and she had such a kind heart. I miss her smiles and laughter.

When I heard of Alex’s passing, I was shocked and couldn’t sleep the next night- the last few days have made me realize how lucky I am to have known her and I cannot imagine how difficult this is for your family. She touched my heart and really made me always feel like I had a friend at home being Walkers, away from my home in NY as a boarding student. With tears in my eyes, I want to thank her parents for bringing such a great person into the world for almost thirty years, and allowing her to truly touch others lives in such a positive way.

My condolences to all of the Brucker family.

May God watch over your family

-Amy Ann Benton

I knew Alex for such a short time and still had many things to learn about her as our friendship was developing. This website has given me a bigger picture of where Alex came from and the people that loved her. She was quite a great lady and I feel lucky that I had the chance to call her my friend. In Feb. I had a 30th birthday party that Alex came to with the coolest birthday cake I have ever gotten- a pink PEEPS cake. She also painted me a great picture of my 2 dogs that totally caught both of their personalities. I know she was planning on painting a picture for the “who done it” art show that is coming up and was pretty excited about it.

I am attaching a picture of Alex that I took at my birthday party. She seems so happy and looks so beautiful in it- makes me smile to look at- I wanted to share it with you. In June Alex was going to do a 100 mile road ride with myself and 5 other girl friends in Logan, Utah. I am planning on bringing this picture with me on the ride.

Anyhow- I hope you are finding some peace, love, and healing. My heart and thoughts are with you and I will always keep Alex’s spirit with me. If there is anything you ever need please let me know!

-Sarah Mitchell

I wanted to write to let you know what a pleasure it was to meet Alex this winter while vacationing in Jackson. Art told me to look for his friend Alex when we got there. She would be wearing a foot cast and it was a small town Well, that was impossible as so many people were wearing foot casts. After a few days of looking at women and wondering if there names were Alex, my friend Jim and I decided we would get her number from Art and give her a call

I could tell by meeting Alex that she had an adventuring spirit to break from a nice cozy night at home, change out of her PJ’s and meet Jim and me, two strangers from New York on a night gearing up to be a snow storm, to make us feel welcome in her adopted town. Alex introduced us to a great out of the way place which we would have never discovered on our own. You could tell that she was already at home. Actually, when we pulled up to pick her up she was outside chatting with neighbors and passers by as the snow came down.

A beer and one spot turned into dinner at another where we learned of how much she loved her new home and her family. She told us how well her bother had taken care of her when he was out for a visit. I believe he had just left the day we met Alex. She expressed how happy she was that he had come out for a visit.

I wanted to share with you the photo we took of ourselves in the town square that night. Marty, Alex and Jim. Jim and I will always remember Alex as part of the beautiful landscape which is Jackson and will see her out there for years to come.

Best wishes, -Marty Hamilton

“Good freinds we have or good freinds we have lost along the way, in this great future you can’t forget your past, so dry your tears I say”
-Bob Marley

There have been 2 times since we graduated from Walker’s where I have been walking down the street and literally run into Brucker…once in ATHENS, GEORGIA, the other in SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA!!
No matter where we were our paths always seemed to cross…our souls have always been attracted to each other and I know they will forever be!!

To Alex,
I hope this message finds you at peace. You will surely be missed. I love ya girl!

To Alex’s family,
There are no words to ease the pain- just love.

To Alex’s friends:
We are so lucky to have had a chance to roll with Alex- she rocks- it was always fun and adventurous, full of spirit and laughter. We all understand what a giving and kind person she is and that taking and selfishness was never part of her equation. In Alex’s honor it is up to us, old friends and new friends to remember her the way should would want us to…..to celebrate her awesomeness and laugh at her sillyness! Whether she admitted it or not, Alex had more pride in Ethel Walker than most of us put together!!! We owe it to her to reconnect with one another!!!

With sympathy, sorrow, compassion and light, -Laura E. Wainer

“Those we love are never really lost to us -
we feel them in so many special ways -
through friends they always cared about
and dreams they left behind,
in beauty that they added to our days…
in words of wisdom we still carry with us
and memories that never will be gone…
Those we love are never really lost to us -
for everywhere their special love lives on.”

It speaks to how extraordinary a person Alex was when even those of us who had limited contact with her since High School feel her loss so deeply in our hearts. She is one of my fondest memories from Walker’s. Her quick wit, never ending smile, her ability not to take herself too seriously - made her a fun and easy person to talk to. I remember how we playfully chided each other because I was older than her by two days, and how we both agreed that Pisces were “definitely superior”.

At the last reunion, when I asked Alex what she had been up to lately - she said, “oh you know, between jobs,” and after that she touched on a few of her travels. She seemed more interested in hearing about any new babies born and insisted on seeing pictures. Then on this site I read about all of the things that she has done, and all of the places she has been to, and all of the lives that she has touched in the eleven years since graduation, and her humility and humor about herself last May sincerely inspires me.

I will miss her physical presence at future reunions - it just won’t be the same without her. It was Alex, almost a year ago, who said that we all had to make a pact to come back for every reunion. She will be there with us in spirit always, I am sure.

To Alex’s family and close friends…I wish you hope in the midst of sorrow, and comfort in the midst of pain. Always remember how lucky you were to have known such an inspiring soul. Also, this website is truly a lovely tribute - thank you for sharing that with us.

With my most heartfelt sympathies,

-Carol Marie Santiago

Hi Adam

My name is Leanne McCulloch and I was one of Alex’s many friends in San Francisco.

First, I just wanted to express my condolences to you and the rest of your family and let you know that my thoughts have been and are with all of you now. I do not know if I will be able to make it to Connecticut for her service but wanted to try and let you know how much she was loved and treasured here in case I cannot be there and am writing to tell you what I would say if I were there. I am finding it very difficult to express the impact she had on my life and the void that is there now that she is gone.

What I do know, especially when looking at some of these pics, is that she was kind, amazing, and full of life. She was the best friend anyone could ask for and admittedly, at times it felt lopsided because she was always doing things like cards, and trinkets, and parties, and stuff for other people which always made me feel special. I miss her bright eyes, her smile and her laugh.

We first met as part of a running group that was training for the 2002 Honolulu Marathon through the SF AIDS Foundation. We always said that Alex was the glue that brought all of us together as friends, not just running partners. Several of us have remained close friends (and in a few cases, best friends) and we credit Alex for that.

She planned a whole “Hawaiian-tiki-theme” party before our running group went to Honolulu to run the marathon there. She came to Vancouver with me in May 2003 when I was running a marathon and she rented a bike and rode the entire course in the pouring rain, taking pictures and supporting me. On that trip, she planned a whole days ferry/bus/taxi ride to get to a bungy-jumping place just because it was something I wanted to do. She was visiting with her aunt and uncle in D.C. when I was doing a 10Mile run and came out before sunrise in the below 10 degree weather to cheer me on. She came with me to the ER when I tore some ligaments in my ankle. She made a ’shadowbox’ wall
hanging of various mementos of a marathon I couldn’t run because of that ankle. She ran the Bay to Breakers with me and my brother and mom and we laughed together at all of the naked people running. Just before she moved back east, she spent two weeks driving around SF with me in search of those big hearts they had on display throughout the city so I could photograph them.

She was my ‘emergency contact’ when she lived here. And she was my friend. I really miss her and my kind thoughts are with you during this time.

-Leanne McCulloch

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Alex, I have just been looking at the website which is such a lovely tribute. I worked with Alex last summer at Tripp Lake as the other lacrosse counselor and we became extremely close in our time there.

We not only worked together but she was my best friend there, we shared so many experiences that I will never forget and she inspired me in so many ways. I was amazed at all the things she had done and achieved and learnt so much from the enthusiasm she passed on to the girls. She taught me to go for anything and everything and really enjoy life. Since working with Alex I have become our college lacrosse captain and am playing for Scotland-neither of which I would have even attempted to do without her help and inspiration. I often think about Alex in nearly everything I do, and her bus note to me when I left was the kindest thing anyone has ever said to me.

I am going back to tripp this year where she will be greatly missed by both myself, all the other counselors and the girls. I am so sorry once again,

-Sarah Bailey

Let me first extend my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. The loss must touch you very deeply as you face your grief. My heart ached when I arrived at work this morning and read the email bearing the news of Alex’s passing. Although I haven’t seen her since our high school reunion, the news was still felt as a blow.

Words seem so inadequate, but with this note comes a heart filled with disbelief and sympathy on the loss of your beloved daughter. She was loved by many and a friend to all.

Alex was a vibrant, talented, caring woman who made a lasting impression on everyone whose life she touched. For those closest to her, she was a rare and cherished friend. Although my contact with her was limited, it was easy to see her zest for life and view’s on its endless possibilities.

As I write, my mind flooded with memories, I am recalling our many New and Old Girl plays, and school spirit days at Walkers. Alex’s energy and good-nature will always be remembered.

To Alex’s family: I know you will miss Alex deeply, but I also know that you recognize the blessings of the beautiful years you shared. I trust your remembrance of her laughter and endearing qualities will help support and guide you during this difficult time.

Due to her nature, Alex has ensured that you will be surrounded by people who care about you and are thinking about you and your family in your sorrow. You have my sympathy and my friendship. My thoughts are with you.

-Dwana (Parkes) Agosto

Dear Adam and family,

I am absolutely devastated by the loss of Alex. When I got the call last Sunday I was shocked and felt like the air was punched out of me. Alex and I met my freshman year at Walker’s and I was drawn to her energy and good spirits from the get go. She had a way of making me always feel special and apart of. No matter how long we went with out seeing each other the minute we were together it was like we had never been apart. Alex was an amazing person! This passed year we had some great laughs at the reunion, my bachelorette party and Jen’s wedding. I will miss her always and she will be with me forever. I am so sorry for your loss and I will see you all at Walker’s on the 12th. Please let me know what I can do to help.
You are all in my prayers,

-Nicky Lewenson Shargel and Jeff

Dear Adam, Denise, Bob, Beth, and other family members.
I am so sorry for your loss. As you know Alex was one of my closest and oldest friends. For those of you who don’t know me, I met Alex when we were in highschool at Ethel Walker. She and I quickly became very close friends. I remember sharing all of our thoughts and experiences with each other. Through all the years and travel she and I remained extremely close. The amount of outstanding memories I have with Alex is something that I am so very thankful for. She always listened, gave me strength during hard times and made me laugh uncontrollably. Myself and others often looked to her as a “role model” in relation to how she handled things and lived her life. For this I feel that we are all blessed. I am slowly going through the process of grieving for my friend who I wish was still here. I will see you all at Walker’s next week. You are in my thoughts. Adam, please don’t hesitate to call if you feel like talking. Your mother and Denise have my number. Again, I want to reiterate that I am thankful that I had the opportunity to have Alex in my life and we will all miss her immensely. She is one of the most loving and kind people I have ever known.

Sincerly, -Jessica Bartolini

Alex and I met at Rock Eagle in Georgia and stayed friends after our adventures there. She was a great person and so many of my fond Rock Eagle memories involve Alex, I will always remember her as the goofy person who stayed up late so we could chat from our rooms on walkie talkies, the girl who would cut photos out of magazines to doctor our personal photos, and the person who loved to launch items off the back porch. I was shocked and saddened by this news and my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. Alex touched so many people she met and she truly will be missed.

Regards, -Lisa Gallinari

To the Brucker Family,

I am so sorry for your loss. I met Alex last summer at Tripp Lake Camp and instantly felt at ease around her. Her smile and warmth pulled me in and I loved going on tripps with her with the girls. Finley as well was a favorite of mine and I would often ask Alex if I could take Finley on walks around camp. You could really see the love Alex had for everything around her and I know how much Tripp Lake is going to miss her.

Alex’s family are in my thoughts and prayers, -Mary Neal

First of all I want to extend my deepest sympathy!

Norm, Nicole, Jeff and I (Denise’s sister) have been keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time.

In the times I met Alex I always said to your Dad what a great person she is….Always smiling and had so much to offer to conversation and so interesting. Such a fun person to be with. Last time we saw her we all went to a Japanese/Chinese restaurant and she was preparing to do her ride from SF to LA and how impressed I was that she was doing that. Then learning about all the other things she had done to help out those less fortunate…such a special person!

I know you, all her family and friends will deeply miss her…but memories of her will always be in your heart and help give you comfort.

Our heartfelt sympathy goes out to you.
Thank you so much for sharing Alex with all of us in such a wonderful way.

Take care of yourself and again…Our deepest sympathy.

Regards, -Michele, Norm, Jeff and Nicole Blackwelder

Dear Adam and the Brucker family,

I am so sorry for your loss. I am still in total shock and completely heartbroken by this loss of my dear Alex. I first met Alex back at Rock Eagle in 2001. I was the new girl on staff and Alex was so warm and welcoming to me right from the get go. We hit it off instantly. I was so attracted to her lovely spirit and thought she was the most hilarious girl I had ever met. As that season went on, we grew closer and closer. We would take off on small road trips each weekend… trekking through the backwoods of Georgia looking for cool spots to camp laughing at all the boiled peanuts sales on the side of the road. We would always share some funny adventure that we would both get We also spent a lot of time together in San Fran when Alex decided to get her “real job.” She took me everywhere in that city.

So many memories, so many pictures, so many letters, so many trinkets……She was a special friend to me, we shared a special connection, we shared so much fun. I am so lucky to have spent so many good times with her. She will be with me always. I am so sorry for this loss.

-Kelly Mack

I was a colleague of Alex’s at the JCCSF. She stayed at our home several times to take care of our dog, Meade, who also loved her immensely. We will miss her very much.

-Shelley Friedman

Dear Adam,

I would first like to send my condolences to you and your family. I am so sad and miss Alex so much. From the first day she walked into to the Dartmouth YMCA we bonded like sisters, we are both Pisces. As I send this letter so many memories fly thru my mind. Most of all the SPIRIT that your sister carried. That girls laughter was so contagious. She bought “Puss’N'Boots” ( the cat characther from Shrek 2) stuffed animal and in it’s french accent Alex would come up to me and ask me “If I wanted to be her friend” or “I Hate Mondays”, I can still hear her now. I still have not been able to tell my children, Andrew & Alison; I’m not sure I will be able to. My children love her so much and ask when they will see her again all the time. Alex has a green ivory bangle bracelet that she wore all the time. I would always beg her for it and she’d laugh and say no. Your sister never forgot that I loved that bracelet. Her heart was so big, when she went on her ride she called me asked me the question pink or purple? and I said what do you mean and she said again pink or purple? I said purple she started to laugh and said I knew it I again asked her why and she said you’ll see. About a week later I get this little package in the mail and I couldn’t believe what was inside, she bought me a purple one like hers. In her note she wrote “Now we’ll be twins forever”. I can’t even comprehend not speaking to her again so until I can fully take her death in I will think of her on another adventure. Please call me if I can help at all.

With much Love!! -Michelle

Walker’s conducts Memorial Chapels during the year. At each of these, alumnae who have passed away since the previous one are named and a short blurb is read about them. At the end, the chapel bell tolls in remembrance. The next Memorial Chapel will happen during Reunion Weekend, Saturday, May 20 at 11:30 a.m. Alex’s name will be read at this Chapel

-The Ethel Walker School

Hi Adam - First of all, I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine the loss of a sibling although I now know the loss of a very close friend. I don’t know if you know of us from Alex, but we (Jefrie and I) worked with her at the JCC. Not only did we work with her, but I like to think we were her San Francisco family. She became very close to our two daughters, Jordan and Torie. As a matter of fact she took them on their very first overnight, took them to movies, took them shopping, went to their gymnastics shows and countless other events Alex was truly a part of our family. We took her to Sonoma with us and she spent some wonderful days soaking up the sun and hanging out by the pool. She was as comfortable with adults, sipping wine and having thoughtful conversations, as she was playing with our daughters and being goofy and silly. We took her to the county fair and made her go on all the “barf” rides with our older daughter that no one else wanted to go on. She came off the ride woozy and dizzy, but we thanked her and Jordan shouted “let’s do it again.” The look from Alex was priceless. I never knew if I should consider Alex like another daughter, a sister or a best friend so I considered her all three. Alex respected Jefrie’s opinions and seeked his advice often. They were very close and her tears were often on his shoulder. Alex was my best friend at work here and we talked almost every week since she left. It was important for her to keep up her relationship with Jordan and Torie and she called them a lot and they called her a lot. I have so many memories, all of them wonderful. I miss her so much and wish I could talk to her again. My hand has reached for the phone so often this past week. Jefrie and I were always there for your sister and our thoughts are now with you and your family.

Always. -Suzy Palmer

Though we never met I wanted to let you know how sorry I was to hear about Alex. I worked with her at Rock Eagle and she was a wondeful person to say the least. I have so many fond memories of her that it’s hard to believe that I won’t have any new adventures with her. Alex was the type of person who made an effect on everyone she met. Please give my love to your parents and take care in knowing that your sister was loved by everyone she met.

Love, -Alyson Darconte

Brux,

I can’t imagine what you are going thru, and my deepest sympathies to you and your family. While I was never privileged enough to know Alex, you have painted quite a picture of how impactful her life was.

You are in my prayers.

Take care, -Charlie Bigelow

Alex was a good friend and great companion on an adventure. She came along with a group of us from Rock Eagle on my first trip to Cumberland Island National Seashore in Georgia, and add many smiles and good times to a wonderful trip. This is how I remember her.

Be well and live fully, -Christophe W Colebrook

I met Alex at Tripp Lake in 1996 when I was a camper. I was only 12 years old at the time, and much younger than Alex. I never had a chance to get to know her well since I am 7 years younger, but from the moment I met her, I looked up to her (and being a little kid, I wanted to be like her). She just seemed like such a great person and really enjoyed being a counselor and teaching the campers everything she knew. I really loved seeing her summer after summer, and I was so glad to hear that she was able to return to camp last summer and other campers had the chance to meet her.

I was so sorry to hear that she passed away, and she will no longer be able to enrich the lives of the young people she loved. I am sure her smile, boisterous laugh, and joyful personality will be greatly missed at Tripp Lake, and anywhere else she was involved. My heart goes out to her family and friends, I will always remember her.

-Lauren

I worked with Alex at Rock Eagle in Georgia. There are so many important lessons that can be learned from Alex’s fantastic life. She was the free spirit I aspire to be.

-Christy Carone

Adam,

Since Liv and I heard you have constantly been in our thoughts. We can not imagine how hard this time must be for you and your family.

What you have done here for Alex is a tremendous testament to your love and resilience.

Please know that you will always have a network of friends to rely on in these hard times.

We will be thinking of you.

-Olivia and Evan Bienstock

“when someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure”

-Kelly Mack

Adam, Beth and Bob:

So very, very sad. Alex is in all of our prayers.

-Roland Caruso

“Love is the boat that lets you pass over the sea of sadness without suffering.”

Alex had a photo of this quote up in her room. I feel like this website is like that boat, as it lets Alex’s entire community share their memories and their love for Alex with each other, which helps make the deep sadness of losing her just a little bit easier.

Alex was one of those people who was simply magical and magnetic. People liked her immediately - she put you at ease, she was fun and funny, she was warm and kind, had an incredible smile and a contagious laugh. She was confident and independant and adventurous. She was beautiful and gentle and compassionate. She was loving and wise and complex. She was stubborn, she made her own unique path in this world, and she always did things her way. She loved life, she loved her friends, she loved animals and children and the wilderness. She loved mail and presents and surprises. She loved a lot of people and was deeply loved by a lot of people.

Alex was one of those people who you could meet a single time and be forever changed by. I am grateful for the time I had with her and am very blessed to have known her, to call her my friend, and to have so many wonderful memories of her in my heart. May the memories each of us have help sustain us and help keep Alex present in our lives and in the world.

My deepest condolences to Alex’s entire family and all of her friends.

Love, -Stephanie Levin

Hi Adam and Family,

Thank you for this beautiful site. I am still trying to understand this loss and find myself asking the same questions over and over again. I cannot imagine the pain you and your family must be feeling.

I remember meeting your dad a couple years ago on a trip he made to San Francisco and I was struck by how much I could see his pride and love for her.
My thoughts and love are with your family now. I wish you peace in this hard time.

I loved Alex very much. I only knew her a short period of time but I felt very close to her while she was in San Francisco. I had not been in touch with her much the past year and that is something that makes me sad. She deserved more from me and for that I am sorry.

She was an amazing, complex, compassionate woman with a very big heart. She had a way of making her friends feel incredibly special and with that she had an amazing ability to reach out to her friends when they needed her most, something I wish I were better at, and I hope I can learn from her.

She had an unforgettable laugh and an unmatched sense of humor. Alex touched my life and brought so many of us together and I am thankful to have known her. I have many memories of her that make me laugh and smile and cry and I will carry those and her in my heart.

-Renata

To the Brucker Family,
Alex and I met at Tripp Lake Camp in Maine but we soon discovered we both had “home in Connecticut” in common. Although I didn’t stray too far, Alex’s home
was the “world.” Stories of her adventures were thrilling and outragious (sometimes!) and a testimony to her love of adventure and the great outdoors. I am deeply saddened that Alex is no longer with us but I know that her spirit is set free. Her angel’s wings are spread wide to encompass all who loved her.
” If I go up to the heavens, You are there;
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
even there Your hand will guide me,
Your right Hand will hold me fast.” Psalm 139:8-10

May you find peace and comfort in the words we all express. Alex’s life touched many and made a difference in this world. We will miss her but she remains forever in our hearts.
with love,

-Janet Nash

This website is a fantastic tribute to a fantastic person. Big personalities leave behind big memories and such is the case with Alex. When I think of her, and especially when I see her picture, I can still hear her booming, contagious laugh. It will resonate with me always and I will continue to look back affectionately on all the time we spent together with our families. I am thinking of the Brucker family during this time, especially Beth and Adam, and reliving all my fond memories of Alex.

Much Love, -Heather Scarritt

Adam,

I am so very sorry for your loss; Alex was a wonderful friend, and I am sure, great sister.

I worked with Alex at Tripp Lake from the beginning — from 1996-2000. I spent a lot of time with Alex my last summer there; my most favorite memory was during a game called “capture the counselor” in which different counselors were worth different numbers of points and we were sent to hide and the kids had to come find us (or, if we were up high, they could say that they saw us and we’d have to come down). Somewhat disgustingly, Alex and I both hid in recycling boxes, but its excitement wore off when no kids could find us. So, considering that roofs were not off limits, we decided to climb to the roof of the Spahn house (the main house/dining room) and stayed there, watching camp from above, and luckily, able to toss someone a camera so that we could always remember the evening. The picture didn’t turn out very well (it was from so far away, only I would know it was the two of us up there), but I have included below some good pictures I have of Alex that I thought you and your family might like to have. Thank you so much for setting up the website; what a beautiful tribute to Alex, and what a thoughtful way to allow all of her many friends to express their love and fondness for her.

Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely, -Georgia Wainger

Adam –

Hi there, I am one of Alex’s bestfriends – we met in San Francisco during the Marathon Training Program. My condolences to you and your family. I was both shocked and sad when Stephanie emailed me the news on Sunday Luckily, I have been in contact with many mutual friends who have all been very supportive and we have cried, but mostly laughed about our precious time with Alex.

I’m not sure if you know by now, but she was planning a trip to New York next weekend to visit me and Rebecca (longtime friend from camp). Alex and I had been calling and emailing each other a lot lately, and she was in good spirits. She was so excited to come to New York that she packed her suitcase weeks before! So, it just hits me harder with the fact that she was going to be here in a week.

Rather than email you pics, I have uploaded some photos I have of her onto the link below. Please feel free to add them to the website.

http://photos.yahoo.com/artie_aguilar and then click on “alex”

Please keep me updated about the memorial service in Connecticut. As you read above, I live in New York now and will definitely attend.

Thank you for reaching out to all of us and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

-Art Aguilar

First, I want to say how sorry I am for your loss. Alex was a wonderful and unique person and I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you.

I was Alex’s supervisor during her 3+ years at the JCC. I truly enjoyed supervising her- for her professionalism and her personality. My quote about her, which I used when giving a reference for her job in Wyoming, is that with Alex I would explain a project, she would ask a few questions and then she just got it. I didn’t need to spend a lot of time explaining things to her, she just got it. I always knew that she would do a good job and she might do it differently than I would, but she would do it well. She was one of the easiest and most fun people I have supervised.

She was loved and beloved by her colleagues, the staff she supervised, parents and especially children. She gave of herself to Camp Kochav and the JCCSF and she did it with a positive attitude and a smile. When she had some tough times, she was honest with me about what was going on and she remained true to herself. I was sad to see her leave the JCC, but I knew she needed to do it and that she wanted another challenge.

As you know, in tribute to Alex we are setting up a camp scholarship fund in her memory and name. I wanted to do something for her, something I thought she would appreciate, which would allow people who loved her to honor her. She had a big impact on families while she was here, and after. I have received several calls from staff and families who have heard about her death and who want to do something in her honor. We are hoping to have a memorial service in SF for her and we are sending out a letter next week to her camp families to let them know about that and the scholarship fund.

Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions about the fund or if you want to hear me or any other former colleague of hers pontificate about how much she meant to us.

Take care, -Karen Einbinder

I’m still in shock and disbelief over the sad news of Alex. My heart goes out to you and your family. I met Alex on a chilly Sunday morning almost 4 years ago as we did our first 3 mile run to figure out which running groups we would be in for the AIDS Marathon training. I guess I was instantly drawn to Alex’s wonderful combination of joy and wit. We started talking and before you knew it we had cheered each other on through the three miles, up the last hill and finished together. After knowing each other for all of 30 minutes, we knew we had to be in the same group - and we were. I’m sure you’ve heard her mention the “Switzers” — our training group.

Before she left San Francisco, we threw her an “all party” going away party. It was a silly idea to surprise her and celebrate all the upcoming occasions that we would be able to celebrate with her in person — Christmas, New Year’s, Birthdays, St. Patrick’s Day, Easter, Valentine’s Day, etc. We decorated the apartment with different celebration corners and would move from one to the next throughout the night. We even gave her a stack of greeting cards with “Open on your 40th Birthday” or “Open when you get married” or “Open on Christmas” — of course, she admitted later that she opened them all on her trip East because she couldn’t wait to read them. I will send you a link to the pictures on snapfish if you would like to use any pictures for you web site. That night was filled with laughter and crying as we knew we wouldn’t be seeing Alex for a while, but we all thought there would be plenty of future visits back to SF.

Alex was special and she touched so many people through her adventures and travels.

Pictures here: http://tinyurl.com/js6ys

Sincerely, -Dave Miller

Reposted from Craig’s AIDS/Lifecycle Blog: http://www.aidslifecycle.org/2274#blog

Hey folks. Just a few days ago I mentioned how I had to write a piece for my friend Alex as she was preparing for AIDS/LifeCycle last year. Seems she had to justify to her boss why she wanted to take a week of personal time to do AIDS/LifeCycle, why it was necessary. I really made me think about what the ride meant to me and made me feel as if I was accompanying Alex on her ride. I was really grateful for her request to make me stop and think about how necessary, transformative and beautiful the rides are.

Thank you, Alex, for that, and for your other numerous gifts of heart that I’ve experienced knowing you. I dedicate this ride to Alexandra Brucker, a two time AIDS/LifeCycle participant, a Honolulu AIDS Marathon finisher (a Switzer!), my friend.

Alex passed away last week at the age of 29. I’ll miss her.

I spoke with Alex about a week ago. We talked about her life in Jackson Hole, about my upcoming ALC journey, about movies, chuckled about our lousy money situations, laughed out loud about the ugly painting of a foot she sent me–about how our dogs were the centers of our worlds. She was thrilled about her upcoming trip to see her friend Artie. It was an hopeful, comfortable, easy interaction.

Alex felt badly about not being in a position to donate to my ride. I’ve certainly been there! I told her that her support meant the world to me and was more than ample, but if she wanted to do something extra, she could buy me my favorite kind of Clif bar–that it would mean more to me than a thousand dollar donation. In her great efficiency, she was on it.

Three days later, I received a package. Inside, my favorite Clif bar and a framed photo collage of her experience riding last year. Her joy was tangible.

On the back, Alex wrote: For Craigers, love you always,xox aeb. I’m cheering for you! Yea! Go, Craig!! Have your own wonderful experience, and think of me along the way. I’ll be with you.”

Yes, Alex, you will. The wind at my back, as it were. (And Alex, I will need MORE than a little help, as I haven’t gotten this sorry ass in the saddle very much this year….)

Thank you, Alex. I offer this ride to you, my beautiful friend with the acerbic wit, the bawdy laugh, the sad and hopeful eyes, and a heart enormously tender and loving. You’ve made a difference to me.

In trying to reconcile loss, in a world which can seem cold and inscrutable, I have found the words of the Dalai Lama to be of comfort: “Some people who are sweet and attractive, strong and healthy, happen to die young. They are masters in disguise teaching us about impermanence.”

Again, thank you, Alex. Namaste. I honor the God in you.

Be at peace, be at peace, be at peace.

Xoxo, -Craig Hermes

to alex’s family and friends,
most loving and heartfelt thoughts to all who knew the magic, joy, radiant smile, and love of alex; i was lucky enough to meet her while working at sports basement in SF and participating in the AIDSLifecycle events; her earthly presence will be missed, yet i look forward to her vibrant spirit living on forever;
much love & peaceful living, -darla

I worked with Alex at Rock Eagle in Georgia. I’m very sorry for your loss. I am shocked, to be honest. My experience with Alex was one of sheer enthusiasm. She seemed to put her heart into everything she did. She was a phenomenal teacher…great with the kids. I lost track of her after we left Rock Eagle…I’m sorry for that now, as it seems she did some amazing things. I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers daily…I know Alex is shining down on us from: from Heaven. God bless..

Very respectfully, -Molly T. Chester

Dear Brucker Family,

Words cannot express the sincere sympathy I feel for your loss. Alex touched the hearts of so many people and TRULY made the world a better place. Her joyous laugh, beautiful smile, bright blue eyes, and fabulous sense of humor & adventure had the ability to light up any room and lift the spirits of those around her.

I have struggled over the past few days to make sense of the loss of such an amazing friend and person. The only explanation I can come up with is that…only the good die young… because it is their hearts & souls of gold that have the ability, as angels, to spread good word, love, happiness and joy to so many people. The spirit of Alex will live on with all of us.

My condolences to Adam, Beth and Bob. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

Sincerely, -Brittany Evans

Dear Adam,

It is so hard to even try to have the right words for a time like this. We imagine putting ourselves in your shoes, and the thought is just so painful. We are so incredibly sorry for your loss. From this unbelievable site you’ve set up and all of the sentiments from everyone writing in, it is so clear what an amazing person Alex was. How lucky you are to have had her as your sister. And Brucker, she is lucky to have had you as her older brother. We are in awe of the list Alex wrote of things to accomplish and words to live by What an inspiring girl! It seems that she had made impressive goals for herself and had spent much of her life following those dreams and philosophies Every one of the many people whose lives she touched along the way considers themselves blessed. We only wish we had had the opportunity to know her better, but her beautiful and adventurous personality shines right through this site for everyone to know. Mark and I are thinking of you and your family Take care of yourselves.

Love, -Kaitie and Mark

Dear Adam,

Our hearts go out to you at this time of such great sadness. We extend our most sincere condolences to you and your family and we hope that the thoughts and prayers of so many who truly care will be of some comfort to you.

Your website is a beautiful tribute to your sister, whom you obviously love very much.

Know that we are thinking of you, Adam.

Sincerely, -Michael, Jeri and Ursula Wade

We are all shocked by the news, but in this time of saddness, let us remember the joy Alex brought to so many lives in so many different places.

I had the pleasure of first meeting Alex in Maine, and for several years our friendship grew. Each summer she had new stories of her adventures over the winter, and was always eager to hear other people’s stories as well. I stayed in Maine after the summer of 1999, and Alex and a few friends came to visit me to spend New Year’s Eve in Maine. She liked it so much she decided to be my roommate for a few months that winter. We explored Maine and saw things that you wouldn’t see in the busy summer season.

After moving to Connecticut, I continued to visit Alex here and there, and even had the pleasure of visiting her in San Francisco several times. She had found new places to explore and new challenges to overcome.

Alex definitely had a passion for adventure and the outdoors. Some of us we fortunate enough to share that with her. I hope we can continue to share Alex’s stories and passions with others, so that her memory will live on.

My sincerest condolences to the Brucker family, -Kurt Tholking

To all the Bruckers,Adam,Beth and Bob
I was so sorry to hear about Alex’s death. I am sister to your Uncle Matty…I have known your family a long time…I remember you and your sister when you were both little. I was around when your sister was born. My husband and I lived in Wethersfield and were moving to Colorado..your sister drew a good bye picture for me…and I still have it..Its more of a treasure now….

Please know we will keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers….

-Anita Caruso

Adam,

I worked with Alex last summer at Tripp Lake Camp. She was an imediate joy to be around. True one of her many accomplishments was her ability to brighten a room with just her smile. She amazed me with her quick wit and charm with everyone there. I lost my grandmother while at camp and she was a great comfort to me and somehow found a way to bring smile to my face and make me laugh to forget about my loss. I wish I could do the same for you but just thinking about ALex now I see her smile and it is infectious. My heart goes out to you for your loss.

Sincerely, -Brandon Faith Harrell

Adam–
This is such a beautiful tribute to your sister. My thoughts have been consumed by your family and how lucky I feel to have called Alex one of my best friends. I know I speak for myself and countless others when I say that I am heartbroken by this loss. Brucker gave me a picture at the end of our summer in ‘97 of Rosalie, she, and I at the top of Cadillac Mountain. In typical Brucker fashion, she wrote something on the side of the picture that I’d like to share.
“Piece by piece, we stitch the world together into something we can work with, something with which we can cover ourselves against the cold nights I don’t know what I would do without them, for advice, for comfort, for simply knowing that there is someone out there that knows me as I am, and loves me despite and because of it. I’ve never been to therapy, and maybe they are the reason why. We talk therefore I am.”

I loved her very much and will carry her in my heart…always.
Love, -Rebecca Rhodes

Brucker,

I am sorry to hear about Alex.

Thinking about you and your family.

Hope to see you soon and if there is anything I can do, your friends are here.

Tight Lines -Josh and Laurel Frazier

Dear Brucker Family,

I have been thinking of your family all week. Alex will be very missed. I met Alex in 1996 at Tripp Lake Camp and worked with her for three summers. She cared so much about her friends and touched many campers over the years. Adam, your website is beautiful.

-Kyle Lipton

I continue to be amazed at just how many people were touched so deeply by Alex. It is a tribute to her kindness, warmth, and compassion that so many people from so many places are feeling this loss so profoundly.

Our thoughts, prayers, and deepest condolences go out to all her friends and family.

-Matt Nuttall

Adam,

You and your family are in our prayers.

Our love and best wishes, -Emily and Chris Wyner

My thoughts and deepest sympathies go out to the Brucker Family and all of Alex’s friends.

I got to know Alex in San Francisco, particularly over the course of a couple Thanksgivings. I will always remember her laughter with (and tolerance for) those of us trying to pull off our first adult Thanksgivings.

I’m sure her laughter and good spirit were bright additions to all gatherings she attended, and I know she will be missed very much.

With Love, -Amy Carlson McConnell

While the amount of time I knew Alex was regrettably brief, the wonderful memories I have of her will stay with me forever.

I will always remember Alex as a generous and caring soul with an infectious laugh, quick wit and an enviable fashion sense (and footwear collection), an extremely talented painter, an avid biker, a lover, protector and advocate for children and animals, a brave adventurer, a devoted daughter, niece, cousin and friend, and perhaps most intimately, a loving sister to my future husband.

While it brings me tremendous sadness to have to accept that I have lost the sister that I was so thrilled and excited to gain, it brings me peace knowing how many lives she has touched and that she will remain forever in the hearts of all who loved and cherished her.

-Jennie Norton

Adam -

I am so sorry to hear of your family’s loss. I know your support system is terrifically strong and will get you through this awful time.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

-Amy McKnight

Adam,
I was so sorry to hear about Alex. I am so glad I was fortunate enough to hang out with her on a few occasions and hear her stories about her experiences in the outdoors. She was a wonderful girl with a great sense of humor. She will be missed.

Your friend, -Mike Morrone

Not sure at all what to say except that my thoughts are with all of the Bruckers and Alex’s friends.

I was privileged to get to know Alex pretty well during her time in SF. In particular, we spent two terrific Thanksgivings together. These were events always filled with much spitrited banter and laughter - often from Adam and Alex giving each other a hard time.

Alex’s passion for childhood outdoor education is a remarkable thing. Having been a camp counselor for many years it was always with great respect that I watched her make a career of this challenging, yet supremely rewarding, field.

Alex, I know you have touched many young lives.

With Love, -Mac McConnell

As you can imagine I am shocked. My heart goes out to you and your family in this terrible time. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you…do not hesitate for one minute. I’ll talk with you soon. God bless, you are in my prayers.

-Craig Shupenko

Words cannot begin to express how sorry I am about your loss. I have a little sis and cant imagine what you and your family must be going through. Please let me know what I can do to help you and your family.

I have passed along the note to as many of the guys as I know. And the outpouring of sympathy is tremendous.

Let me know what I can do. Hang in there my man. Door/Phone always open to you to talk.

-Mark Whitworth

I can imagine that you and your family will be handling a lot of calls so I’m emailing.

I am really sorry to hear about your sister.

I cannot fathom handling this but I know you will.

I’m thinking of you and your family.

-Adam Wade

I just heard. I am so sorry about your sister.

I just wanted to drop you a quick note to say I’m thinking about you and your family.

Again, I’m sorry. I’ll talk to you later.

-PJ Morrone

I don’t know what to say. I’m very sorry to hear about Alex.

I can remember the first time I met her at your mom’s house in CT, a fun and curious little sister who wanted to know more about what this Phish concert was that big brother was off to with friends from college. Years later I can remember the incredulous look on your face when we came across her at a show somewhere on the East Coast (MSG?) with a big smile on her face enjoying the experience in full force.

You should know that your friends are all very saddened by the news and want to offer their support in any way we can. Please keep us informed as you learn more, and understand that we are here to provide support to you and your family in any way that we can.

I hope to speak with you soon-

-Lee Bouyea

I’m so sorry to hear about your sister – not really sure what to say, if there is anything I can do please let me know

Please pass on my condolences to your family.

Your friends, -Jeremy, Heather and Ethan Wenner

just wanted to check in and see how you’re doing
i told the boys out here in SF, everyone is feeling for ya…
lots of love and well wishes to you and your family…
when you know more, or feel like talking, you know how to find me…

-Scott Clark

I heard the terrible news. Not really sure what to say- except that I’m very sorry, and that you and your family are in my thoughts.

-Jon Bloomberg

Adam – just got back from a trip, and was saddened to come home to an e-mail from Scott with the terrible news. I am so sorry for your loss…..not knowing any details, I am only hoping that whatever happened, it was peaceful. I don’t think much can be said to make this any easier for you or your family, but just wanted you to know that you have a great group of buddies who are obviously standing by to help in any way possible. I’ll be thinking of you…….take care of yourself….and please don’t hesitate to e-mail or call anytime.

-Thys Heyneker

So sorry to hear about your sister. I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through but please let me know if there’s anything I can do for you. Talked to a bunch of the guys today and if you haven’t heard from them already, you will. We’re all thinking about you.

Take care, -Michael Schwartz

I also just want to tell you, and your entire family how deeply, deeply sorry I am for your loss. Alex was a truly remarkable woman and I loved her very much. She changed my life and I’m a better person for knowing her. It’s rare to have a friendship like ours and I feel so blessed to have known her in the last few years. She is the strongest person I’ve ever known and I miss her terribly already.

If there is anything I can do for you or your family, I hope you will let me know. I hope that we can continue to be in touch. Please call me anytime, day or night.

Sincerely yours, -Stephanie Levin

To the Brucker Family:

I wanted to share the following email that we sent to our staff at Tripp Lake Camp. I am sure you will have some nice photos sent directly to you that our staff would like to share. I am so saddened. All my sympathy to you during this most difficult time. Please let me know if I can be of any help. Please know that Alex was loved and was a wonderful addition to our Tripp Lake Family.

Sincerely, -Nancy McCann

Dear TLC Staff Member,

It is with great sadness, that we share with you, our Tripp Lake Family, that one or our staff members, Alex Brucker passed away on April 22, 2006. Alex was in Wyoming and died in her sleep.

Needless to say this comes as a terrible shock, especially at a time when we are all looking forward to the day we reunite for our staff orientation and the start of our 96th season.

Alex worked at Tripp Lake from 1996 to 2000 in our photography and lacrosse departments. From her experience and love for Tripp Lake Camp, she pursued youth camping as a full time profession. She was a successful camp director in San Fransisco from 2001 to 2004. Alex returned to T.L.C. last summer because she wanted to be in a place she had loved so dearly and meant so much to her. We know she found the comfort, love and friendship with all of you.

Alex’s mother has asked for pictures of Alex that staff members would like to share. If you have stories and memories of your summer with Alex, we are sure her parents and brother would love to have those as well. Tripp Lake and our staff have touched Alex and her life in so many ways as Alex has touched all of ours. While we will all miss Alex, she will remain in our hearts forever.

Our warm thoughts to all of you,